Saturday, September 3, 2011

Tan Siang Tai A131561 LJ05 The Kite Runner

The Kite Runner

This will be the last learning journal that I will be writing. During the lecture on last Wednesday, the lecturer changed his way of teaching. Instead of giving lecture, the lecturer gave tasks to trigger the students to be more interactive and think critically. This lesson is about emotion and personality. The three tasks given are: watch the video clips and relate to the Psychoanalytic Theory, discuss the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), and discuss the Big Five Theory.

For the first task, the video shown are about personalities.
The first video clip: A long time ago, when I was just a child, I believed that my life was great and that nothing could ever go wrong. I believed that no matter how bad things got, there was always a light at the end of the tunnel. But, after I grew up, I started to think differently. I started to realize that not everyone you meet will want to be your friend and that not every dark tunnel has light at the end. I realized that the terrible predetors your parents tell you aren't just stories to make themselves look mean and that you can't just trust anyone. I have been lonely for a long time. I have felt abandoned; I have felt cheated and played for a fool. Am I fighting for friends who laugh at me when I turn away? Am I giving money to a beggar and not seeing that they are not using it for good? It's like a friend of mine said: in my eyes, love is fake and stupid. I am getting so lonely waiting for a girl I don't even know and I am sick of always trying to be a good boy when I have heard that nice guys finish last. I am tired of trying to fulfill my dreams in a world where to anyone else they are no big deal and I am tired of being able to trust just anyone. I am tired of running towards the sun to find out it is just a flashlight. That is the way I have thought recently but that was then and I want it to be now. Even if those friends betray me, I will find new ones. Even if the beggar cheats me, I will keep being generous. Even the light I see is not the sun, I will keep looking for it until I can warm my frozen heart in its warmth. I have waited this long for that girl, why stop now? A long time ago, when I was just a child, I believed that my life was great and that nothing could ever go wrong. I believed that no matter how bad things got, there was always a light at the end of the tunnel. And you know what? I still believe that. P.S. from one of the billions people stuck on this planet without a clue, to all you depressed people out there, get over yourselves already. I do not know exactly what this life exists for, but trying to figure out is half the fun.
The second video clip is about the type A and B personalities. People with type A personality eats quickly, gets up early, is always in a hurry, impatient, organized, perfectionist, frequently checks the clock, drives faster than normal and more impatiently, and competitive. A person with type B personality is calm, drives  at speed limit or less, easy going, eats slowly, patient, does not rush or worry, speaks slowly, relaxed, has a pleasant existence, informal, self-confident, has a bland temperament, and agreeable. Type A person is more stress while type B person is more relaxed when are equally motivated in achieving the same goal. 

Second task is discussing the MBTI. This MBTI are based on the well-known research of Carl Jung, Katharine C. Briggs, and Isabel Briggs Myers. It is based on four categories: extraverted (E) or introverted (I), sensing (S) or intuitive (N), thinking (T) or feeling (F) and judging (J) or perceiving (P). Combination of all 4 letters results in personality type portraits. Mine is ENFP, which the inspirer. According to description of a website, as an ENFP, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you take things in primarily via your intuition. Your secondary mode is internal, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit in with your personal value system. ENFPs are warm, enthusiastic people, typically very bright and full of potential. They live in the world of possibilities, and can become very passionate and excited about things. Their enthusiasm lends them the ability to inspire and motivate others, more so than we see in other types. They can talk their way in or out of anything. They love life, seeing it as a special gift, and strive to make the most out of it. ENFPs have an unusually broad range of skills and talents. They are good at most things which interest them. Project-oriented, they may go through several different careers during their lifetime. To onlookers, the ENFP may seem directionless and without purpose, but ENFPs are actually quite consistent, in that they have a strong sense of values which they live with throughout their lives. Everything that they do must be in line with their values. An ENFP needs to feel that they are living their lives as their true self, walking in step with what they believe is right. They see meaning in everything, and are on a continuous quest to adapt their lives and values to achieve inner peace. They're constantly aware and somewhat fearful of losing touch with themselves. Since emotional excitement is usually an important part of the ENFP's life, and because they are focused on keeping "centered", the ENFP is usually an intense individual, with highly evolved values. An ENFP needs to focus on following through with their projects. This can be a problem area for some of these individuals. Unlike other extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values. ENFPs that remain centered will usually be quite successful at their endeavors. Others may fall into the habit of dropping a project when they become excited about a new possibility, and thus they never achieve the great accomplishments which they are capable of achieving. Most ENFPs have great people skills. They are genuinely warm and interested in people, and place great importance on their inter-personal relationships. ENFPs almost always have a strong need to be liked. Sometimes, especially at a younger age, an ENFP will tend to be "gushy" and insincere, and generally "overdo" in an effort to win acceptance. However, once an ENFP has learned to balance their need to be true to themselves with their need for acceptance, they excel at bringing out the best in others, and are typically well-liked. They have an exceptional ability to intuitively understand a person after a very short period of time, and use their intuition and flexibility to relate to others on their own level. Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. They place no importance on detailed, maintenance-type tasks, and will frequently remain oblivious to these types of concerns. When they do have to perform these tasks, they do not enjoy themselves. This is a challenging area of life for most ENFPs, and can be frustrating for ENFP's family members. An ENFP who has "gone wrong" may be quite manipulative - and very good it. The gift of gab which they are blessed with makes it naturally easy for them to get what they want. Most ENFPs will not abuse their abilities, because that would not jive with their value systems. ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment. They have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person or situation, but when they apply judgment to their perception, they may jump to the wrong conclusions. ENFPs that have not learned to follow through may have a difficult time remaining happy in marital relationships. Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, they may become bored with what actually is. The strong sense of values will keep many ENFPs dedicated to their relationships. However, ENFPs like a little excitement in their lives, and are best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experiences. Having an ENFP parent can be a fun-filled experience, but may be stressful at times for children with strong Sensing or Judging tendencies. Such children may see the ENFP parent as inconsistent and difficult to understand, as the children are pulled along in the whirlwind life of the ENFP. Sometimes the ENFP will want to be their child's best friend, and at other times they will play the parental authoritarian. But ENFPs are always consistent in their value systems, which they will impress on their children above all else, along with a basic joy of living. ENFPs are basically happy people. They may become unhappy when they are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks. Consequently, ENFPs work best in situations where they have a lot of flexibility, and where they can work with people and ideas. Many go into business for themselves. They have the ability to be quite productive with little supervision, as long as they are excited about what they're doing. Because they are so alert and sensitive, constantly scanning their environments, ENFPs often suffer from muscle tension. They have a strong need to be independent, and resist being controlled or labeled. They need to maintain control over themselves, but they do not believe in controlling others. Their dislike of dependence and suppression extends to others as well as to themselves. ENFPs are charming, ingenuous, risk-taking, sensitive, people-oriented individuals with capabilities ranging across a broad spectrum. They have many gifts which they will use to fulfill themselves and those near them, if they are able to remain centered and master the ability of following through.

The third task is to discuss the Big Five Theory. The theory is based on 5 factors: extraversion (E), agreeableness (A), conscientiousness (C), emotion stability/ neuroticism (N) and openness to experience (O). For each factor, there are questions and scale for answering. For the factor that scores the highest, the person is said to have that personality. Mine is N, which is emotion stability/ neuroticism, meaning I am an emotional person. From both test, MBTI and the Big Five Theory, the results fit me well.

This is the last learning journal, and considers that I used to use movie to express my thought, I figure that I would not do the same this time. Since I am 'the inspirer', so I am going to write something that is motivating, at least I hope that anyone who read this can gain something. Regardless who you were, what religion, what race, the most important thing is that you need to know who you are going to be and what you want in your life. If you ever fall, or make mistakes, or feel like giving up, or when you are depressed and upset, just look back and look forward. Look back to the people around you, people that care for you and people that matter to you. Look to the front, see the good after the bad, and see that after you fall, you are going to stand up stronger than even, see that after you make mistakes, you will better, wiser, see that after everything bad happens in your life, you are going to be so good that people are impressed by you and that you are going to amaze people, inspire people, and change people. Everyone does count, so make a change, be better, do good ^_^
 

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